5 Practical Steps to Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Many men would love to have led Sean Connery’s life. Tall, handsome and dashing, Connery was the original agent 007 in James Bond movies. Connery traveled the world to shoot movies in exotic places. He won an academy award and three Golden Globe awards.
Yet, when asked in an interview why he continued to act at age 62, Connery gave a surprising answer: “Because I get the opportunity to be somebody better and more interesting than I am.”
Many people feel like Connery. They don’t see their lives as measuring up to others, which leads to discouragement.
As Sean D. Smith said: "One of the fastest ways of discouraging yourself and getting trapped by the sin of envy is when you compare yourself to others. God has a specific plan for you and you won’t accomplish that plan by looking at others."
The following 5 steps will help you stop comparing yourself to others:
1. Avoid statements that indicate a lack of self-acceptance.
An example is: "I wish I were taller/thinner/smarter/richer.
2. Replace negative thoughts about yourself with inspiring Bible verses.
An example: "I am fearfully and wonderfully made." - Psalm 139:14
3. Limit Facebook time.
Facebook is filled with examples of people "living their best life", e.g. great vacations, dining at fine restaurants (or even great meals prepared at home), birthday celebrations, graduation, career success, etc. It's easy to get drawn into comparing your life to others. Solution: avoid spending a great deal of time on Facebook.
4. Avoid rigid rules.
Example 1: "Should" - "I should be married by now, since I am only single one among my friends."
Example 2: "Should Not" - "I should have been promoted, since many of my colleagues have been promoted."
5. Follow The Apostle Paul's advice.
Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others. Assume your own responsibility. (Galatians 6:4-5 GW)