6 Steps to Getting Unstuck

As Mandy Hale said, Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.

When we are stuck, we often wait for external change to happen. But change doesn't happen to us, it comes from within us.

These steps will help you get unstuck:

1. Identify an area of your life in which you are "Stuck". (e.g. physical health, job, relationship, habits, etc.)

2. What pain is being stuck causing you? (poor health, worry, frustration, low self-esteem, etc.)

3. Visualize what your life would look like if you got unstuck looks like. (Complete these sentences: "I am feeling________. I am doing________

4. What pleasure are you experiencing as a result of being unstuck? (Complete these sentences? (Improved health, better relationships, increased job satisfaction

5. Set a goal for achieving the vision you stated in Step 3.

S - Specific: The goal should be precise, rather than vague. ("Lose 25 pounds", rather than "Get into better physical condition."

M - Measurable: How will you measure success? This helps you see your progress and determine if you are moving in the right direction. (When the scale says I weigh 25 pounds less than I do today)

A - Achievable: The goal should challenge you, but you must believe that you can achieve it.

R - Relevant: The goal must be relevant to the specific area of your life in which you are stuck.

T - Time Definite: Set a specific date by which you expect to have achieved the goal. This adds an element of urgency and motivation. (Example: October 31, 2019 

6. Develop a plan of action for achieving your goal

Action                                         Complete By

1. Let go of the past.

You can't undo the past, but you can choose to find peace. Forgiving yourself and/or others is a way of letting go and moving on.

3. Start with small changes.

Change your daily routines, move things in your house, making new friends. Every choice matters. You might be tempted to skip the little things because they don't always seem important in the moment. But after a while, an accumulation of small changes will help you accomplish your goals, and you will begin to get unstuck.

4. Identify your life purpose.

Your life purpose is more than your job, your responsibilities, or your goals—it's what makes you feel alive. What are passionate about. Examples may be 

Protecting the rights of senior citizens.

Eliminating adult illiteracy

Helping immigrants get assimilated into American culture

Protecting hospital patients from harm

Your life purpose must inspire you. If the purpose under which you have been operating no longer does, it is time to change it. Or, if you have been operating without a purpose, this is a great time to define it. Ask yourself the following questions as you consider your life purpose:

When I have free time and can spend it any way I like, what do I choose to do?
What were my favorite things to do in the past?
What are my favorite things to do now?
When am doing something and I lose track of time, what am I usually doing?
Who inspires me the most, and why?
What makes me feel good about myself?
What am I good at?

What do people regularly compliment me on?